In Praise of Crisis

In mid-November of 1981 my family gave me a one-way plane ticket from Providence, RI to Minnesota, a 30-day all expenses paid stay at Hazelden, and a stern admonition to not come back. Twenty-nine years old, drinking and drugging daily, no job or other legitimate income, physically and emotionally beat up, rejected by family and […]

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Why Is Trauma a Four-Letter Word for so Many Men?

“Don’t cry.” “Don’t ask for help.” “Always be in control.” “Don’t display any vulnerability.” “Don’t acknowledge pain.” “Don’t be weak!” In my previous blog post “Why Gender Matters,” we looked at how these messages are communicated to men in a variety of ways throughout the course of their lives. The messages calcify into “rules” that […]

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Why Gender Matters

Following is the first in a series of forthcoming blogs that address the impact of gender on behavioral health care. The very first question posed to an expectant mother is usually, “A boy or a girl?” An avalanche of assumptions begins to develop based on the answer to this question. The process of gender socialization […]

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